Confidence in oneself is one of the most important ingredients to a contented life, at least as far as I am concerned. I really wanted to talk about what self-confidence meant to me and why is it so important. I wrote it like an essay with 600+ words and had H review it before I posted it here. He came back to me with a plain face and obviously I knew I had to rewrite. One of the definitions of Confidence on google is — a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. Simply put is that it is quality of trusting yourself.
Before we dive into self-confidence, let’s talk about confidence in general. Think of a commercial that recently made you really buy the product. Give yourself a few minutes and try to think of the exact reason you felt compelled to believe in the product or even just give it a shot. Go on.., Stop reading this and think for a minute.
Now, most likely you would say you just felt like it. Or maybe it is a new product or there was something reassuring about the ad that made you believe in it. If it is anything else besides this, please leave a comment below. I would love to know what other reasons could be possible for people to trust commercials these days. Moving on, my point here is that the actor in the commercial needs to be convincing to sell stuff and convincing will happen when he is confident of what he/she is selling. Confidence is something that instills belief and drives actions. Self-confidence is having faith in yourself, being secure about yourself as a person.
Let’s face it, we all have flaws but self-confidence gives us the strength to face our shortcomings and look for workarounds. Note that I am not just talking about physical flaws but mental or even emotional issues. When you accept who you are, it becomes clear to you what your strengths and weaknesses are. You play your strengths and you accept your weaknesses. As long as I personally don’t feel insecure about my flaws, it doesn’t matter what anyone else has to say about it. That is self-confidence! It is all in your mind. If you can convince yourself that you are not perfect and you don’t need to be, you become YOU! And that is liberating.
You know how in the movies the girl always realizes her true love is that one guy who loves her for her and not want to change her one bit? It is the same concept. When Tanu realizes Sharmaji accepts her for who she is with all her irrational behavior and doesn’t ever customize her, she breaks-up with her contractor boyfriend Awasthi. Tanu weds Manu pt1. It’s on Netflix, watch it if you haven’t already. You will understand what I am talking about.
Confident girls are the prettiest
Also, everyone has their own morality gauge of what’s right and what’s wrong. You cannot press your morality scales on others nor should you let others do it to you. What I wear might not be a big deal to me but to someone else it may seem too bold. What am I going to do about it? Nothing! If I am confident of my fashion choices, it doesn’t matter what others think of it. Obliging to your mother when she asks you to wear salwar because your relatives are visiting is a whole different thing. It’s just a silly example but you catch my drift?
Then there are mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes. Why then are we so critical of someone else’s mistakes? A confident person is not someone who never makes a mistake. He is someone brave enough to make mistakes and take responsibility of eff-ing it up. Things went wrong? Screw it. Learn from your mistakes and move on and try not to ever do it again. If it bothers you what others might think of you for your mistakes, you are wasting your time ‘cuz honestly it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks.
Only with Self-confidence can you shut the haters out of your life
Life is very short. It is not worth the efforts to prove who you are. It is enough if you can accept who you are! And once you do that, half of your problems will go away, because then you will only worry about pleasing anyone but yourself. Isn’t it easier to manage just yourself than to worry about what anybody else thinks or does? I think so. So, the bottom-line is be self-confident. That will make you unapologetic about who you are. And that is the only way to live a happy life.
PS: Self-confidence isn’t synonymous to arrogance or self-serving.
It is not worth the efforts to prove who you are. It is enough if you can accept who you are!